Loud music. The occasional questionable drink. And, worst of all, people. Parties can be pretty scary sometimes, especially if you’re unfamiliar with the party scene. Lucky for you, I’m the party queen, and I’ve got some tips on how to come out of your shell at parties.

1)Wear an interesting article of clothing or accessory. It could be a sparkly headband, a funny t-shirt, whatever will spark a conversation. When people approach you and compliment you on whatever it is that you’re wearing, you can tell a funny story about how you got it or something that happened when you wore it some time before.

 2)Put yourself out there. Don’t be afraid to join a conversation or play a game. The more fun and outgoing you seem (even if you’re really nervous on the inside), the more people will want to get to know you.

 3)Compliments are king. At least, they are for girls. Compliments are a great way to start a conversation with someone you don’t know. Plus, you make a great first impression. Guys, I don’t really know what to tell you to do in lieu of giving compliments. You should probably talk about sports.

 4)Never fly solo. Going to a party with a friend is not only an overall good idea, it’s a great way to meet new people. Stay attached to your friend initially and have them introduce you to their friends. Once you know enough faces and names to feel comfortable, you can detach from your friend and go get to know other people better.

5)Bring a delicious dessert or dip for your fellow party-goers to enjoy. People will be overwhelmed with your culinary skills and probably will not be able to resist talking to you, even if it is only to learn your food-making secrets. But hey, that’s better than eating chips and salsa by yourself in a corner.

Dance. Smile. Make new friends. But most importantly, have fun. Parties are meant to be enjoyable, and hopefully safe social gatherings. And if they aren’t your thing, then movie night in your basement with two or three friends can be just as fun.

Kaley Martin is an Opinion Editor for The Patriot and jcpatriot.com.